I don’t write many columns these days but I am really passionate about getting the discussion started on this.
I support men having the right to opt out of parenthood via financial abortion.
I don’t think a women should be forced to be a mother. Why should men be forced to be fathers?
It’s rooted in medieval thinking that
1. People should be punished for having sex
2. Sex is the natural consequence of sex
3. Abortion is a horrible distressing shameful thing
4. It’s somehow a man’s ‘responsibility’ to support a woman and his children
5. Women’s choice to have a child should never be questioned
6. Becoming pregnant is a ‘magical blessing‘ and not simply a biological consequence
7. Children ‘need’ two parents. And need them to be their biological parents of different sex
8. Birthing and raising a child is better than terminating the pregnancy
9. Women are unable to raise and support children on their own
10. Everyone should want to be parents
Picture this. A couple has been dating for a few months — having a great time drinking, talking, shagging and wandering through each other’s worlds.
They may have even discussed children, and one or both has made it clear they don’t want any. The couple’s use of contraception has also made implicit their desire to not become pregnant.
But in the spirit of “Q: How do you make God laugh? A. Tell her your plans”, suddenly, this hypothetical couple is dealing with an unexpected pregnancy.
After the initial shock, she has decided she wants to keep the child. He, meanwhile, has no interest in becoming a father. Now what?
I have recently come to the conclusion that, as a feminist, I support men being able to opt out of fatherhood early in a pregnancy via what is known as a financial abortion.